I feel torn about how to handle it.
Don't want to be too blunt (and if I am wrong, apologies - disregard), but maybe you were looking forward to having a romantic affair with her and it didn't pan out, which is why you are feeling torn? If that is true, you will find it pretty difficult to be the kind of objective friend who can flat honest point out the negatives in her behavior. And chances are she will sense your true feelings and play you - no, own you is a better term - as a fan club member who's rationalized role is informal psychological counselor. Sounds like an HPD's idea of a freakin gold mine - but unless you are Chuck Norris 
it will mess your head up.
On the other hand, if you don't have those feelings for her, you can be that friend you describe and provide true objective support, i.e., pointing out the positives and negatives.
No one wants their friends to start psycho-analysing them but on the other hand if no one ever tells her then how is she going to sort it out.
Boundaries...then don't go there, unless she sincerely asks you for advice.
She asked me why that was and I bit my tongue
This is always the first test of any kind of relationship with an HPD (or anyone else) - if she will tolerate you pointing out the negatives. We all have negatives. Just don't get too emotionally invested in 'saving' her, because she can backslide and become focused on your attention - ironically you will only obstruct her chances for progress. Unfortunately, although not an impossibility, the stats for HPD awareness and recovery apparently aren't too good. It takes a lot of commitment and dedicated hard work (not to mention mental health insurance) on their part, and many HPDs, probably 75% or more, just prefer to keep bubbling along, although some of those naturally grow out of it.
Always remember this: if you screw your own head up, you are of little to no use to anyone you wish to help.
We rarely talk now as I don't want to be a fan of anyone. Life's too short.
That sounded so real, so strong 
Source: http://www.psychforums.com/family-support/topic111961.html
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